Helpful Resources
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I only recommend items I truly believe in and hope these tools serve you on your path toward wholeness.
Knowledge is Power in the Healing Process
"When partners and addicts understand the psychological systems involved, they are better able to make sense of what has happened and take meaningful steps toward recovery."
— Dr. Omar Minwalla
For the Betrayed
The Betrayal Bind
Explores why it's so hard to leave or heal from a relationship where you've been deeply hurt, offering trauma-informed insight for betrayed partners.
Intimate Deception
Written from the perspective of a betrayed partner and therapist, includes tools for couples moving forward.
Facing Heartbreak
A workbook for betrayed partners offering step-by-step support to process betrayal trauma, set boundaries, and begin healing.
I Want to Trust You, But I Don’t
Offers clear steps to rebuild trust after betrayal through accountability, empathy, and safety.
Moving Beyond Betrayal
Helps betrayed partners set boundaries and reclaim stability during recovery from sexual betrayal.
Your Sexually Addicted Spouse
Foundational text that reframes betrayal trauma through a trauma-informed lens—especially for partners of sex addicts.
The Better Boundaries Workbook
A therapist-developed, step-by-step workbook to help trauma survivors and codependents develop and practice healthy limits.
The Book of Boundaries
Direct and no-nonsense, with ready-to-use scripts for setting boundaries at work, with family, and in relationships.
Boundaries: When to Say Yes, How to Say No
A Christian classic that blends biblical wisdom and psychology, ideal for those navigating relationships through a faith-based lens.
Good Boundaries and Goodbyes
Speaks directly to Christians who have been taught that “loving well” means saying yes too often. Encourages healthy spiritual and emotional limits.
For the Betrayer
The Final Freedom
Christian-based resource for men seeking freedom from sexual addiction.
Worthy of Her Trust
A practical guide for men who want to rebuild trust after betrayal.
Facing the Shadow
A powerful workbook for those struggling with compulsive sexual behavior and addiction.
Help Her Heal
Short, clear, and focused on helping betrayers respond to their partner’s trauma with empathy and accountability.
Healing the Shame that Binds You
A classic that explores toxic shame and offers tools for self-compassion and healing.
For the Relationship
How We Love
Attachment-based insight into how past wounds shape relationship dynamics—great for couples in betrayal recovery.
After the Affair
A secular, therapist-recommended guide for couples navigating infidelity recovery.
Courageous Love
A roadmap for couples to heal after betrayal through empathy, responsibility, and connection.
The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work
Evidence-based guide for strengthening relationships through improved communication and emotional attunement.
The Couple’s Guide to Intimacy
Supports couples in rebuilding emotional and sexual connection after relational trauma.
Therapeutic Disclosure Preparation
The books listed are intended to support understanding of the disclosure process—not to replace professional guidance. Attempting disclosure without the help of a trained therapist or coach can cause further harm. For safety and healing, formal disclosures should always be guided by a qualified professional trained in betrayal trauma.
General Healing
The Body Keeps the Score
The gold standard for understanding how trauma reshapes the brain and body—and how healing can occur.
Feelings Buried Alive Never Die
Explores how trapped emotions impact health and offers tools for emotional release.
Healing Your Family History
Examines generational patterns and guides readers in breaking cycles of emotional pain.
The Gifts of Imperfection
Explores shame, self-worth, and wholehearted living—excellent for people in the healing process.
Altogether You
Explores Internal Family Systems (IFS) through a faith-integrated lens—useful for both partners doing inner work.
Leadership and Self-Deception
Reveals how self-deception damages relationships and how honesty can restore them.
The Anatomy of Peace
Shows how inner change fosters peace and healing in personal and relational conflict.
The Mindful Self-Compassion Workbook
A hands-on guide to building self-kindness and managing emotional pain.
The Resilience Workbook
Offers practical tools to strengthen emotional endurance and recover from stress or trauma.
The Art of Extreme Self-Care
Explores boundary-setting as a form of radical self-care—ideal for those healing from burnout, resentment, or self-neglect.
Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents
Helps readers understand the impact of emotionally neglectful parents and how to heal and set healthy boundaries.
Waking the Tiger
Introduces Somatic Experiencing and helps readers reconnect with their body’s natural capacity to heal.
Strong Like Water
A deeper dive into trauma-informed strength, boundaries, and self-compassion.
The Courage to Be Disliked
Challenges people-pleasing and promotes freedom through self-acceptance.
When Pleasing You is Killing Me
Helps readers break free from toxic people-pleasing and reclaim healthy boundaries.
The Complex PTSD Workbook
A trauma-informed workbook with step-by-step practices for those recovering from long-term or developmental trauma.
The Post-Traumatic Growth Guidebook
A follow-up to The Complex PTSD Workbook, focused on resilience, meaning, and integration after trauma.
The Sexual Healing Journey
Supports survivors of sexual abuse in reclaiming safe, healthy sexuality.
Rising Strong
Focuses on what happens after the fall—how to rise with honesty, grief, and integrity when you’ve been hurt or betrayed.
Try Softer
Though not focused solely on betrayal, it offers trauma-informed tools for honoring pain, grief, and the body’s responses.
Disclosing Secrets
The gold standard for preparing a formal disclosure. Offers clear guidelines, worksheets, and trauma-informed practices for creating a full, honest, and respectful disclosure that promotes healing—not more harm.
Full Disclosure
A step-by-step guide for those preparing to disclose sexual betrayal, this book offers a structured, trauma-informed process to support honest, accountable, and healing disclosures—with professional guidance.
Your Disclosure Document
A companion resource for supporting the betrayer in the creation of a complete and structured disclosure plan.
Full Disclosure Vol 1. For Partners
Written for betrayed partners, this guide explains the purpose and healing potential of a formal therapeutic disclosure—empowering you to make informed, safe choices on your recovery journey.
Full Disclosure Vol 2. For Partners
A trauma-informed guide to help betrayed partners prepare for disclosure on their terms—offering clarity, boundaries, and emotional safety throughout the process.
Accurate Information is Empowering
“It allows betrayed partners to see the situation for what it is—not what they’ve been led to believe—and that clarity is the beginning of healing.”
— Dr. Jill Manning